New Delhi – Dating can be tough, and who to turn to for advice or even a shoulder to cry on when the going gets tough? Friends are often our designated confidants; however, there is one person in your corner to whom you can turn for advice based on experience, understanding and unconditional support: your mother!
Mothers, with their own wealth of life experience, know best — even when it comes to dating advice — that they can be a guiding force in their children’s dating journeys.
This Mother’s Day, inspiring Indian mothers whose daughters took the first step and met their partners on Bumble, share their thoughts on online dating plus tips on how to keep an open mind and communicate clearly with your children.
* Educate Your Mom About Online Dating: Sunidhi and Kushal weren’t big believers in online dating, but fate would have it, they found each other on Bumble! Anita, Sunidhi’s mother, was a little hesitant about online dating to begin with. She mentioned that “there is a learning curve that can only be advanced by children. With time and better knowledge, I think parents will be more receptive and confident that their children are finding love online. I think it’s important for mothers to instill the basic principles of a relationship and the foundations on which it rests. I talked about my learnings in life with my daughter, which I think helped her choose the right person. As Sunidhi got older, we became better friends and it became easier for her to come and talk to me about her feelings.
* Trust Your Kids: After their parents insisted they find their partner, Aradhana and Vinay joined Bumble. As two people looking for a marriage, they immediately hit it off and got married a year and a half after their relationship! Her mother Vandana Jagota, who was really excited when she learned that Aradhana had found her on Bumble, shares that “moms can be allies in the love life of their children by trusting them. They must be fully convinced that children will do what is right and good for them. Children should consider their mother as a friend and have an open conversation about their love life. There should be no hesitation on the part of the children or the parents.
* Create a safe environment: as they say, when it’s good, it’s good! Sanya also met Utkarsh on Bumble under similar circumstances. Three months after they met, they got engaged. Shabnam Kundra, Sanya’s mother, says most parents tend to be nosy with their questions, but she’s always made sure her daughter feels comfortable discussing her relationships and heartbreaks ever since. she is a teenager. “If you are a mother who started this practice late, always remember that patience is the key to nurturing any relationship.”
Take it one step at a time, start spending more time together, go out for lunch and dinner, or talk about any TV series that tries to break taboos. When the time is right, take the next step and ask him if he sees anyone. You can’t push them at any cost, as it might just delay the process even further.
Trusting your mother to be your friend and ally can give you the confidence to embark on your romantic journey with renewed vigor. Use this Mother’s Day as the perfect opportunity to start that new chapter of friendship that you will cherish for the rest of your life. (IANS)